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There are those that say that doubt kills dreams; I agree in part. While doubt can really dim our inner lights if not kept in check, I think that we can actually gain heaps from questioning ourselves. 

I like people who question themselves because I think they really know themselves. (Overconfidence gives me the collywobbles and gets me signalling for the sick-bucket). I question myself a lot in my everyday life and sometimes people rather shortsightedly see this as self-doubt. It's not....not really.

To me, questioning myself is my way of reevaluating my motives, actions and ideas. And by the end of it, I feel that I have a stronger grasp on the stuff that actually matters and have a clearer perspective on what I am doing and where I am heading. Yeah, I will probably question myself over and over again along the way but all that dialogue (or is it a monologue?), helps me know myself better and that is where a healthy sort of confidence lies no? You don't have to agree with me.

Overcoming doubt is the real trick. Maybe questioning ourselves is a way to conquer it. Maybe not. But The prize for doing so is something closer to wisdom, honesty and a more solid peaceful sort of confidence. 


23 comments:

  1. This is such a positive post - I'm a chronic self-doubter - I can lose my confidence over the slightest thing and yet nobody would see me as someone who isn't confident. I think you describe the thought process really well but one thing I've noticed is that while I question myself ALL the time, I am coming to more positive outcomes these days instead of going into hiding mode. If you can find a way to confidence, even if it is through questioning, it's all to the good.

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  2. you have to be realy brave to be able to face with your doubts.

    From the other side - I don't like when people have more doubts than faith in other people, just because they don't know how to think big.

    Greetings from Poland
    Aleksandra | Love Street Fashion

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  3. Could it be that what you were trying to do is actually more of a contemplation/introspection? Because where else can we gain wisdom if it is not from within? I learn that doubt is there to teach us where to go & to clarify our direction, so onward with your questions, my friend, you are on the right track.

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  4. i tend to think i annoy people sometimes, when i take too much time to decide on things. but i insist of taking my time, because if anything goes wrong after, i would know i've done what i need to do and i wouldn't blame myself for it, at least not as much. some people just go with it, but i would take one step back. i doubt myself. but i'd like to think it's worth it :) great post and thoughts Yasumi, as always x

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  5. I think there is a fine line without self-doubt, between the healthy kind that keeps us on the path towards our goals and the kind that can cripple, holding us back from what we really want. Many people have difficulty distinguishing between the two, especially as outsiders.
    xox,
    Cee

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  6. I think that you are right Cee. Many onlookers can just brush it off as negativity and yet some people who are going through a period of doubt may not be able to turn it into something positive.

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  7. I really like the way you think on this Sharon. The feeling of responsibility is something that many people take for granted and dust off when it suits them. Don't change! It must mean that when you do something...you are damed sure about it?

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  8. That is true Aleksandra - facing doubt and questioning yourself is not something everyone wants to do so it does take an amount of bravery to even start to unravel your thoughts this way.


    Completely agree with you on the matter of other people though!

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  9. Oh jane! Thank you so much for your comment. Positive outcomes from questioning or doubt is the best way forward and exactly what I hope for. If after all my questioning and thinking I still feel negative about something...I no I have to walk away but this rarely happens.

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  10. You are so wise. I am a big self doubter / am I good enougher. I think the difference in us is that you carry the doubt through to resolution whereas I let it trap me. Will try your perspective next time.

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  11. Oh interesting perspective! I'm a serious self-doubter too. I guess like Cee said it depends if it's actually stopping you from functioning/doing what you want to do. If it doesn't, I think it can be helpful because it turns up lots of different options and backup plans that might end up handy...

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  12. It can be exhausting though, the constant questioning of one-self. It's hard to know when you've done enough contemplating and can move on to actually acting upon whatever it is that you've been thinking about. I think this exhaustion issue is part of what made me feel like this chronic contemplation is not a good trait to have but reading your post has put things in a different, more positive perspective for me. Thanks for that :)

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  13. Hmm.. I don't think questioning yourself and doubting yourself are necessarily the same. I guess doubt is the lack of belief in yourself whereas questioning is keeping yourself in check, and assuring you're on the right path - but with the belief that you will achieve what you wish.. But I definitely agree with you, questioning everything is incredibly insightful and almost necessary.

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  14. Hello Rebecca. I agree! Doubt is more of a looming cloud and questioning though it shares a fundamental element with doubt it is a far more lighter and useful tool. So if doubt is a dark room, questioning is like a torch...maybe?

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  15. It really can! And I am prone to this too - when I think too much, I stop myself from doing something. Lately, I have been pushing myself to DO and then thing about it afterwards so I can use it as a learning experience for next time. You are right though......I don't want to cascade into some sort of Cartesian doubt.


    I am so glad that you found this post positive! Us questioners really know ourselves well I think...there is nothing we haven't asked ourself at one point. So when we do something we do so wholeheartedly and with so much hope!!

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  16. I agree that self-reflection is always good, and I don't see it as self-doubt unless I don't do something because I don't think I am capable of doing it (even though I really am). Heck, I self-reflect a lot when I shop so I don't make impulse purchases :).

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  17. I question myself sometimes, and work things out in my head. I try not to doubt myself though, which can be hard. Questioning things helps me to find the answers I need and not just settle for the answer that someone gives me, I tend to learn better when I question, it makes me go searching for the answer and I learn much more on the way than I would if I was just given the answer or never searched in the first place. But, doubting yourself can make you stumble sometimes, keep you back from trying anything new or succeeding where you would shine. Question everything, but believe in yourself to know you will find the answer or something to help you :) xx

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  18. "I question myself a lot in my everyday life...". Me too! Constantly!

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  19. I think questioning is where a lot of growth can come :)

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  20. i question myself a lot too. and i can't stand overly confident people. i knew a few of those, i mean overly confident in things they didn't even know and it totally showed. i just didn't get it. but i like people who are self aware and who question. :)

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  21. hmm, most of the time haha ;) i try to make the best of it everytime, and i guess that's what counts. xx

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  22. Every word in this post is damn right! I doubt myself every now and then and sometimes it really kills my inspiration and rhythm.

    Katrina Sophia

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